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Takeaways

• Life evolves and changes, and so should our expectations.

• Self-identity can be built on survival mechanisms.

• Grief can manifest as self-hate when we don't recognize ourselves.

• Mirror work is about acknowledgment, not just acceptance.

• Curiosity over criticism fosters a healthier self-dialogue.

• Building a new relationship with oneself takes time and effort.

• It's okay to feel lost and unsure; you're not alone.

• Your worst days don't define your worth.

• Embrace the messiness of being human.

• You are worth getting to know, no matter your past.

Keywords

self-identity, personal growth, mental health, self-acceptance, trauma, self-discovery, podcast, personal development, authenticity, self-love

She shares the messy middle of van life—managing power systems, finding safe places for her dog, and learning to surrender her expectations. This episode is for anyone feeling untethered, in transition, or unsure where they belong. Spoiler: the answer might not be a place—it might be you.

You’ll hear about:

• The truth about solo van life and executive dysfunction

• A very real meltdown in Coeur d’Alene (and what it taught her)

• Why routine tricks us into thinking we’re safe

• What it means to find home in a moment, not a map

• Why Cait is rebranding everything back to She’s Hungry

Keywords (SEO): van life podcast, solo travel mental health, finding home within yourself, neurodivergent travel story, redefining home, van life struggles, Coeur d'Alene van life, she's hungry podcast, Cait Pearson, emotional self-discovery, travel burnout recovery

🎧 Listen now and share with a friend who’s been searching for their place in the world.

I was reminded—loudly—of the kind of space I always wanted to create. Not just content. Not just community. But something bigger. Something deeper. Something that actually holds people while they build the lives they want instead of the lives they think they’re supposed to settle for.

This episode is where it all starts to take shape.

I talk about:

• The actual origin story behind my coaching and podcast work

• Why I believe we don’t need more strategy—we need more spaces where it’s safe to ask brave questions

• The importance of building a life with both emotional depth and structural clarity

• Why the She’s Hungry podcast was the first yes that started all of this, and why I’m bringing its energy back now—but evolved

I’m not starting over.
I’m starting from the exact middle of where I am right now—with clarity, momentum, and a vision that’s finally ready to take up space.

It’s the beginning of something I’ve been circling for years. And this time, I’m letting it land.

This week, I sat down to record an episode with no outline, no bullet points—just a full heart and a messy brain. The only thing I knew was that I needed to talk about this idea that’s been chasing me down lately:

What’s meant for you will not miss you.

I wrote it on my whiteboard. And then I added: No exceptions.

That part surprised me. Because if I really believed it, why would I feel the need to clarify that? Probably because somewhere deep inside, there’s still a part of me that thinks maybe I’m the exception. Maybe I’m the one person who could do all the right things and still end up empty-handed. Maybe I missed my window. Or made the wrong choice. Or stayed too long in the wrong story.

But then I think about the math of being alive—how the odds of existing as you are, in this moment, are 1 in 400 trillion. And I remember: That’s what a miracle is.

You are not here by accident. You are not behind. You are not broken. You are not the one person this won’t work out for.

You are on purpose.

Even if you’re limping toward what you want. Even if the timeline looks different than you imagined. Even if you’ve made decisions that don’t make sense to anyone but you.

Especially then.

I talked in the episode about how I’ve always made choices from a place of inner truth, even when they came with consequences I didn’t anticipate. At 16, I quit soccer (for only a season) after tearing my ACL—but that choice, for that one season, changed the trajectory of my life. But I knew it was the right decision, even when it hurt. Even when it didn’t make sense to other people.

And that’s how I’ve lived most of my life. Not with a five-year plan, but with an inner compass. And sometimes that compass points to places that feel terrifying. Sometimes it feels like walking blindfolded through the dark. But every time I trust it, it gets louder. Clearer.

The truth is, we don’t get to know how it ends. But we do get to choose how we show up in the middle.

And the middle is where the magic is.

So if you’re here—confused, tired, maybe even doubting if you’re still “on track”—I want you to remember this:

The way your heart aches? The way you cry at both sunsets and commercials? The way you feel too much, want too much, try so damn hard to make it all matter?

That’s not evidence that you’re too much. That’s proof you’re still open.

And that’s everything.

So no—you're not the exception.
You're the evidence.
That healing and hurting can coexist.
That not knowing doesn't mean you're lost.
That becoming is messy—and still sacred.

You’re not late.
You’re just in it.
And you’re doing the brave thing.

Keep going. No exceptions.

to the brave thing,

We talk a lot about healing like it’s supposed to be inspiring. Like there’s a before-and-after montage and a shiny new version of you on the other side. But healing in real life? It’s quiet. It’s gritty. And most of the time, it’s invisible.

This week, I shared a story I’ve never told out loud before. It was the year I baked my own birthday cake while trading off sitting on the kitchen floor sobbing, four hours from home, completely alone. My partner didn’t come home that night. I was in a relationship that I didn’t yet have the language to call abusive. I felt abandoned, gutted, numb. But my grandmother called, gave me her yellow cake recipe, and laughed with her like everything was fine. She had no idea I was dying inside.

I made that cake. And I ate it. And somehow, that moment—that cracked-open, nothing-left-in-the-tank moment—became a quiet vow to myself. A marker of: I will not forget how this feels. I will not let myself go back here. I will get out.

And I did. Not all at once. But over the next few months, I kept collecting proof that I deserved more. That I was allowed to want out. That I could trust myself, even when everything felt foggy and I didn’t know how.

We need to normalize talking about this kind of healing. The kind that doesn’t go viral. The kind where “keep going” just means you didn’t disappear inside yourself.

I also talked in the episode about masking—the ways we perform okayness to survive in a world that isn’t made for our brains, our nervous systems, our softness. I shared a quote that said, “Unmasking all the way isn’t always recommended. Masking is a coping mechanism. In a world not built for us, sometimes the mask is what keeps us safe.” And I felt that in my bones.

So no—you’re not weak for needing the mask. You’re adaptive. And honestly, you’re still here. And that counts for everything.

If you’re in a low-capacity season, if showing up feels like dragging yourself through molasses, if you’re just trying to keep the lights on inside your own body—this episode is for you.

And if you’ve ever baked a cake at 9pm because your grandmother told you to and it felt like the only thing you could say yes to that day—well… same.

🎧 Go listen to the full episode wherever you like listening to podcasts, I’ll be there.
📖 And if you’re moving through heartbreak or just the ache of letting go, my book You Don’t Need Closure will be available in the next couple of weeks. It’s the honest, soul-deep guide I wish I had when I was rebuilding from the wreckage.

Talk soon.

It started with a post I made on Threads about how much I hate brushing my teeth. Not forget to. Not skip on accident. I mean viscerally hate it—like every cell in my body revolts. And apparently? I’m not alone. The responses were overwhelming.

This episode isn’t really about toothpaste though.
It’s about shame.
The kind we silently carry for not being able to do the “easy” things.
The stuff everyone else seems to manage without a second thought—showering, dishes, answering a text, making a phone call.

But if you’re neurodivergent—or chronically overstimulated, burnt out, or tired in a way you can’t fully explain—those tasks aren’t easy. They’re loud. They’re heavy. They stack up and make you feel like a failure before the day even starts.

So this one’s for you.

For the girl staring at the sock on the floor she’s noticed 10 times and still hasn’t picked up.
For the one crying in her car because brushing her teeth feels like a whole event.
For anyone who has ever wondered, “Why can I do hard things, but not the ‘easy’ ones?”

You’re not lazy. You’re just tired.
And you’re still trying. That matters.

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🎙️ Plus: Back-Pocket Pep Talks are up if you need a quick reality check or a loving slap today.

Talk soon. You’re doing better than you think.

Yeah. That’s what we’re talking about today.

Episode 7 of Chronically, Over It just dropped, and it’s all about the terrifying beauty of becoming someone new. Not in a “clean girl rebrand” way—but in the real, gritty, identity-crisis-meets-self-trust kind of way. I open up about what it’s been like to unmask lately, to grieve old ambition, and to look in the mirror and not fully recognize the girl staring back.

This one’s especially for you if:

• You’ve left something (or someone) behind and feel… hollow

• You’re scared that healing means losing your drive

• You’re craving peace but your nervous system is still wired for chaos

• You’ve been chasing partners, goals, or validation that never actually fed you

I also share a personal therapy moment that cracked open the truth: maybe the ambition wasn’t me. Maybe it was a coping strategy.

Maybe letting go of it isn’t losing myself… maybe it’s finally meeting myself.

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To the brave thing, thank you for listening!

You know that foggy, itchy kind of stuck that makes you rewrite your to-do list seventeen times and still feel like you’re getting nowhere?

Yea. That one.

That’s what this week’s episode is about—but not in the “just push through” way people love to shout about. This is about the real kind of stuck. The kind that feels like your brain is buffering and your gut is trying to whisper something you’re not quite ready to hear.

For a long time, I thought that feeling meant I needed to try harder, think more clearly, get more strategic.

But lately? I’ve been wondering if maybe “stuck” isn’t confusion.
Maybe it’s fear dressed up in indecision.
Maybe it’s your body saying, “Hey, we know the answer… we’re just not ready to pay the cost of acting on it yet.”

And that hit me like a brick.

Because I’ve known the truth so many times—about a job, a person, a path I was on—and still avoided doing anything about it. Not because I didn’t know. But because I didn’t feel safe to trust that knowing.

Clarity isn’t always comforting. Sometimes, it’s brutal.
Sometimes it means ending something that still has good moments.
Sometimes it means disappointing people you love.
Sometimes it means finally admitting something to yourself that you’ve been trying to outrun.

And we don’t talk enough about how griefy that in-between space feels.

That’s what I wanted to make space for in this episode—not advice, not answers, but a mirror.
A moment to pause together and say: “Hey, if you feel like you’re circling the same thought over and over again, you’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You might just be on the edge of your own becoming.”

We tell ourselves we don’t know what we want, when really we’re terrified of what will happen if we admit we do.

Because admitting it would mean…

• Saying no

• Choosing ourselves

• Risking being misunderstood

• Taking one small brave step in the direction of something different

So what if we stop making clarity the goal?
And start practicing self-trust instead?

That’s where this whole Brave Thing framework came from.
Because I was tired of trying to think my way into certainty.
And I needed something that brought me back into my body.

Something small. Real. Grounding.

Three questions. Two breaths. One brave thing.

No magic solution. Just movement.

If any of this hits, I think you’ll love this week’s episode:
Thoughts on Feeling Stuck & How to Trust Your Gut — it’s honest, layered, and full of those “oh shit, me too” moments.

🎧 Listen to the episode here, Apple, or Spotify
📲 Back Pocket Pep-Talks are here too — for the moments when your nervous system is screaming and you just need a voice in your ear that actually gets it.

And hey—if you’re in that messy middle right now, I’m proud of you.

Stuck isn’t a failure. It’s a threshold.
And if you’re standing at one? That’s brave as hell.

to the brave thing,

If you’ve ever tried to gratitude-journal your way out of a spiral, felt behind no matter how hard you worked, or questioned if your dream life is even yours, this one’s for you.

This post breaks down:

• Why scarcity isn’t a mindset issue, it’s a nervous system one

• How abundance culture can become a glamorized hustle trap

• What to do when even your “aligned goals” feel hollow

Oh—and we talk about the couch I miss more than some exes, why bath rituals are spiritual resets, and how defining abundance for yourself (without Pinterest or Instagram) might just be the most radical thing you can do.

✨ Back Pocket Pep-Talks™ are your on-demand hype audios for the moments you’re doubting everything.

🎧 Grab them here when you need proof you're braver than you feel.

🎧 Listen to this episode on Apple, Spotify, or wherever else you listen to podcasts

You know that moment when you finally say “no”?
Like, a real no. A no with your full chest.
And instead of feeling empowered… you feel like you just ran over someone’s dog?

Yeah. That.

In this week’s episode of Chronically Over It, we’re pulling the curtain back on boundaries. Not the Pinterest-quote, affirmation-filled kind. The real kind—the ones that feel awkward, confronting, and sometimes leave you spiraling with guilt even though you know you did the right thing.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
Saying no isn’t the boundary.
It’s the expression of one.

A boundary doesn’t exist until it’s upheld—and that’s the part no one warns you about. Setting the line is easy. Holding it? That’s where things get spicy.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why most boundaries fail (hint: they’re set too late)

• The difference between setting a boundary and trying to control someone else's behavior

• What “pre-decided no’s” are and how they’ve saved my nervous system

• The identity shift that happens when you stop being everyone’s emotional support animal

• How to hold your line even when your voice shakes, your stomach drops, and the people around you don’t get it

And yeah… we talk about the grief, too.
Because boundary work isn’t just about feeling more confident or being a “badass.”
It’s about reclaiming energy, space, and self-respect.
And that often means losing roles, dynamics, or even people who were benefitting from you not having any.

But you know what you gain?

Time.
Peace.
Integrity.
Self-trust.

When I set boundaries this past year—real ones—I watched some friendships fade. Not because I stopped loving those people, but because I stopped abandoning myself to make them comfortable. And while it hurt like hell, it was also the moment I started rebuilding a relationship with the one person I’m stuck with for life: me.

This episode is for you if:

• You feel guilty every time you say no

• You keep setting boundaries, but nothing changes

• You’re emotionally intelligent, slightly codependent, and tired of being “the strong one”

• You’re ready to stop overexplaining and start choosing what actually feels right for you

This one’s a little longer, a little deeper, and very necessary.
Because I’m over the fluffy boundary advice.
We’re grown. We’ve got shit to do.
And no one tells you this—but protecting your peace often doesn’t feel peaceful at first.

It feels like change.

And change is messy.

But if you're here, you're probably ready for the mess and the freedom on the other side of it.

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Okay, talk to you later. Love you, bye.

This isn’t a podcast about personal branding pivots or “how I rebuilt my life in 5 steps” advice. It’s about being smack in the middle of the mess—mid-sob, mid-spiral, mid-unraveling—and choosing to show up anyway.

In this first episode, I’m talking about the myth of having your shit together and why chasing that fantasy might actually be what’s making you feel broken. Because let’s be real—most of us are just trying to stay afloat in a world that rewards polish and punishes honesty. And I don’t want to play that game anymore.

I talk about the grief of starting over. The discomfort of disappointing people who were attached to your old identity. The kind of tired that comes not from doing too much, but from performing too much.

This episode is me cracking open the myth of the “put-together” version of myself I spent years trying to become—and finally admitting she never actually existed. She was a survival strategy. A coping mechanism dressed up as a success story.

So if you’re the type who’s tired of pretending, who spirals at 2 p.m., who forgets to eat, who’s rebuilding slower than you’d like—this episode is for you.

You don’t need a rebrand.
You don’t need a new planner.
You might just need space to tell the f*cking truth.

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We’re in the middle together.
That counts for something.

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to the brave thing,

In this episode of Chronically Over It, I’m unpacking the sneakiest coping mechanism so many of us “emotionally intelligent” girlies fall back on: intellectualizing our feelings instead of actually feeling them.

It looks like growth. It sounds like self-awareness. It feels like you're nailing the healing thing. But really? You’re narrating your emotions like a detached tour guide instead of living in your body with them. You’re writing essays on your grief instead of grieving. You’re mapping your anger’s origin story instead of just… being mad.

And look—I’m the queen of frameworks. I love finding the perfect phrase that captures exactly what I’m going through. But sometimes, I use language to create distance. If I can define it, I don’t have to feel it. But the truth is? Healing doesn’t happen in the head. It happens in the body.

In this episode, I talk about:

• What it looks like when self-awareness becomes avoidance

• Why women especially struggle to express anger without shame

• How to catch yourself intellectualizing instead of embodying

• And why the real flex is letting yourself feel the thing you’ve spent your whole life avoiding

I also share the moment I screamed in a U-Haul van (with a friend’s full consent) because I needed to let it out, and how that moment became a weird, beautiful turning point in learning to feel safe with my own emotions.

So if you’re tired of being emotionally intelligent but emotionally exhausted, this one’s for you. You don’t need another coping tool—you need a soft place to land.

→ Go listen, then send this to the friend who hasn’t cried in six years but can quote Brené Brown verbatim. They need it.

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to the brave thing,

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Episode Two of Chronically Over It is live.

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “Cool, now what do I do with THAT?”—same. Especially in therapy I can’t tell you how many times I feel like I can not work through one more trauma wound.

In this episode, I talk about the sneaky, relentless urge to “improve” ourselves into worthiness. The voice that tells us our peace is on the other side of being more disciplined, more healed, more emotionally regulated, more [insert exhausting checkbox here].

And let’s be honest—it’s not just hustle culture. It’s that deep internal programming that makes us believe love, rest, and gentleness have to be earned.

I get into how my own late ADHD diagnosis cracked that open for me. I spent years treating my identity like a never-ending group project with invisible deadlines. Always chasing a “better” version of myself that—spoiler alert—didn’t exist.

What I’m starting to realize (and say out loud in this episode) is that self-worth doesn’t come from becoming more palatable or impressive. It comes from stopping long enough to ask, “Who told me I wasn’t enough before?”

Maybe you don’t need to reframe it. Maybe you don’t need a new plan.
Maybe you’re just tired.
And the most honest thing you can do is stop performing long enough to hear what you actually need.

This episode is a reminder that rest is not a reward. Growth is not a checklist. And you don’t need to be inspiring to be worthy of love.

🎧 Episode Two is live: Listen on Spotify or Apple, or anywhere you listen to podcasts!
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You're not broken.
You're just not a machine.

Thank you for listening. 🫶🏼

to the brave thing,

We don’t do curated content.

We don’t glorify hustle.

We don’t pretend failure isn’t part of the process.

We unravel, rewire, and reimagine what success, growth, and identity actually look like in real life—not just on the internet.

Chronically Over It is where healing gets loud, failure gets reframed, and the mess becomes the most powerful part of your story.

New Episodes drop every Thursday (at least that's the hope) k, ttyl, bye!